Is there anyone more adorable than a curly haired toddler? The little one has his or her curly mojo going in full force. Can you imagine straightening a child’s curly hair? Of course not! I have seen mothers protect their child’s curls like their lives depend upon it. Why is it that curls on young children are adored, but when the child grows older something makes them want to straighten their hair? At about the age of ten, the curly mojo seems to be replaced by a strange societal pressure to straighten the curls. To me, this is not only sad, but ridiculous.
If you have curly hair, count yourself as lucky. Look around these days and you will see that more curly haired people are embracing their natural texture. Isn’t it time for you to join your curly tribe?
Here is How To Get Your Curly Mojo Back:
- Accept that you have curly hair. Every time you get out of the shower your hair is telling you something…it is naturally curly for God’s sake! This is who you are. Embrace your true nature. You are blessed!
- Embrace the spontaneity of curly hair. Every day your hair will be a little different. Rather than see this as a bad thing, why not be grateful for it? Spontaneity is one of the things that makes nature so beautiful. Inside of you is a Wild Woman or Wild Man wanting to express itself. This is good. Let a little wildness come out! We will all be grateful to you.
- Put away your brush and hot tools and stop fight against your curls. Throw away your flat iron and curling iron. All you need to detangle your hair is some good conditioner and your fingers or a wide tooth comb. Always detangle your curls using conditioner when you are in the shower and then let your hair be curly.s
- Throw away any shampoos that contain sulfates. Sodium laurel sulfate, in particular, is a harsh chemical detergent that will strip all the good oils out of your hair and leave your curls dry and frizzy.
- Stop using products which contain silicones and parabens. These ingredients may at first appear to make your hair smooth and shiny but they can build up on your hair and prevent moisture from getting into the cortex (inner layer) of your hair where it is needed.
- Look around you and admire all the gorgeous curly hair you see. According to DevaCurl, over 65% of the population has naturally curly or wavy hair. Do you know why two-thirds of the human population has curly hair?… It is because other people want to have sex with curly haired people and curly babies are being born! Forget what you hear about men preferring straight haired women. This simply isn’t true. Men love women who show off their natural curls and women usually feel the same way about curly haired men. Show off your curls and make some curly haired babies!
- Moisturize, deep condition, and drink plenty of water. The cuticle (scaly outer layer) of curly hair is raised more than the cuticle on straight hair. This allows moisture to escape from curly hair more easily. As a result, curly hair can become dry and requires continuous moisturizing. I like a deep conditioning treatment called Melt into Moisture by DevaCurl and I suggest that my clients use it twice a month or more.
- Accept the fact that you might have a little frizz. It’s ok! In her book, Curly Girl, Lorraine Massey calls this a frizz halo. I love this spiritual way of looking at it. Curly hair is a gift to you from God, or whatever you want to call your Creator, and if your Creator loves your curls, shouldn’t you?
- Protect your curls when you sleep by putting your hair up in a ponytail on the top of your head and sleeping on a silk or satin pillowcase or wearing a silk or satin bonnet. When you get out of bed in the morning, let your hair down, spritz with a refreshing mist, reshape your curls with your fingers, and with a little luck, you are good to go.
- Make (or buy) a few bottles of lavender water and spritz your hair throughout the day to hydrate your curls and control fly aways.
- Ask your hairstylist to learn to cut your hair dry in it’s naturally curly state and style it naturally curly when they are done. If your hairstylist doesn’t want to quit blowing your curly hair out straight and insists on cutting it wet, then it may be time to find a new stylist who embraces your natural hair texture.
- Embrace the uniqueness of your curly hair. Your curly hair pattern is like no one else’s. It is as unique as your fingerprint. Don’t suppress your uniqueness, show it off! Be grateful that you have curly hair. You are lucky.
- Imagine that you are two again and spin around on the front lawn until you fall down. Let your curly hair fly baby! You are beautiful!